Against Me-Stop
and
Alternate Routes - "A better way"
Good...good song.
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Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Relationship Advice of the day.
Qualities of lasting relationships
-Happily ever after doesn’t come on its own we want the perfect partner but how do we find them? Once we do, how do we make sure we don't mess it up?
1. Effective communication-Look for a partner who can talk about the relationship. If you find someone who is unwilling to speak and talk and work things through,-your in an impossible situation. They don’t resolve conflict well so conflict is always problematic, and leaves them feeling sad and hostile with each other. They don't know how to talk about their hopes and dreams with each other. They don’t know how to give the other person room to grow. These are the kinds of things that destroy a relationship in the long run. The only way to improve a relation is to talk about things that don’t work, and then attempt to work them through by negotiation or just through openness and understanding about what the other person is feeling.
2. Shared Values-You've got to have a world view that at least matches in some way, that of your partners, and if you don’t have that, there’s going to be a lot of friction along the way and over time the relationship can be defeated by those differences.
3. Respect- You have to respect this person. You have to have a feeling that you value and respect who they are as a person. You need a good strong physical attraction as well.
Those three things really matter, but you can’t have any of them without that prime one; the ability to talk things through.
It’s very easy to rationalize and say "well I don’t really respect him, but I could come to respect him" and that kind of betting on the future is rarely effective.
One should not settle for less in love.
-Happily ever after doesn’t come on its own we want the perfect partner but how do we find them? Once we do, how do we make sure we don't mess it up?
1. Effective communication-Look for a partner who can talk about the relationship. If you find someone who is unwilling to speak and talk and work things through,-your in an impossible situation. They don’t resolve conflict well so conflict is always problematic, and leaves them feeling sad and hostile with each other. They don't know how to talk about their hopes and dreams with each other. They don’t know how to give the other person room to grow. These are the kinds of things that destroy a relationship in the long run. The only way to improve a relation is to talk about things that don’t work, and then attempt to work them through by negotiation or just through openness and understanding about what the other person is feeling.
2. Shared Values-You've got to have a world view that at least matches in some way, that of your partners, and if you don’t have that, there’s going to be a lot of friction along the way and over time the relationship can be defeated by those differences.
3. Respect- You have to respect this person. You have to have a feeling that you value and respect who they are as a person. You need a good strong physical attraction as well.
Those three things really matter, but you can’t have any of them without that prime one; the ability to talk things through.
It’s very easy to rationalize and say "well I don’t really respect him, but I could come to respect him" and that kind of betting on the future is rarely effective.
One should not settle for less in love.
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